Because we’re limited to our 5 senses, I believe we won’t truly realize how much of God’s grace has covered our lives until the day we stand before Him and review the course of our lives.
Just as an infant does not fully realize the blood, sweat, and tears the parents put in to raising the child by enduring long nights, arduously working to provide food, and disadvantaging their lives for the advantage of their child, so it is with God the Father to each of His beloved children.
2000 years ago while the world was unaware, God the Father sent His Son Jesus Christ to render His blood, sweat, and tears to redeem us. He deliberately disadvantaged Himself for the advantage of the world He so loved with the knowledge that many would not come to realize the grace lavished on them.
He still pours His grace on us. While we are distracted with one thing we don’t have, He continues to provide hundreds of things we never ask for today.
"Leah’s eyes were weak, but Rachel was beautiful in form and appearance. Jacob loved Rachel.
And he said, “I will serve you seven years for your younger daughter Rachel.”
Laban said, “It is better that I give her to you than that I should give her to any other man; stay with me.”
So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed to him but a few days because of the love he had for her.”
I’ve been thinking a lot about when is a good time to get into a relationship?
I’ve asked people over the couple weeks and have pondered about this topic to myself.
Until today, God allowed me to realize a healthy indicator that one is ready: they are willing to wait.
My pastor said something in our meeting today about members who wanted to serve in ministry would have to first wait and go through a 6-month process of faithfully attending Sunday services, lifegroups, and finishing a discipleship course.
To that someone brought up that a few members were feeling anxious and eager to want to serve right away without having to wait or go through the process in which he replied,
"… If members cannot go through the process and patiently wait to serve, then that gives me all the more reason to not let them. Not being able to wait and go through the process first shows a lot about their character and their true motives…"
And it dawned on me, not at that moment, but while I was reading at Starbucks a couple hours after our meeting:
What is it inside me that wants to be in a relationship? Aren’t relationships about dying to ourselves (being selfless) and serving the other person?
Why is it that I deceived myself into thinking that trying to rush into a relationship was about me and my wants?
My professor last semester gave the class advice that when a person asks you to preach at their church, to never feel obligated to rush in and say yes to every request, but to pause and tell the other person that you would want to wait on the Lord and pray about it before making a decision.
If they say that they can’t wait, then that’s a good indicator that you shouldn’t go and speak at their church because now you know that they are not genuinely wanting you to come and speak, but just wanting to use you for selfish reasons.
So ask yourself, would you be able to wait and go through the process of God working in you first before you served another person?
And being impatient and trying to rush things would give God all the more reason to not allow you to go into a relationship because then it would reveal your true character and selfish motives.
Relationships are not for you and your wants, it’s about serving another person.
So can you wait? Patiently, not impatiently, to serve another person?
Jacob willingly waited seven years for Rachel. If he wasn’t able to wait, it would have been evident that he wasn’t really in love with her, but merely wanting to use her to temporarily and selfishly medicate his loneliness.
This is true for anything. If you think you need a certain clothing item from the mall, wait a day or two. If that desire subsides, then you know that you didn’t really need it, but you merely wanted it at that moment to try to medicate a deeper issue going on in your heart.
If your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t want to wait until marriage to have sex, chances are they don’t really love you, they just want to use you for their momentary fix.
That’s why in cases where a girl doesn’t allow the guy to take advantage of her, the guy will usually break up with the girl and go find another person who won’t wait until marriage.
I think that’s why God desires us to come to Him in prayer by waiting for Him. We learn a lot about ourselves and in the things we hastily request to God in our waiting.
By the way, can we all just praise God right now for all the unanswered prayers? Imagine if God hastily answered every single one of our prayers?
God is not about momentary fixes but lifelong transformation that produces in us an anchored soul able to weather any storm; endurance produces character.
You know the desire and love you have for someone is genuine when you’re content with waiting patiently in love.
Jacob waited and endured. And in that waiting he learned that his love for Rachel was genuine.
God works in us in the wait.
There is so much wisdom in waiting.
When a man or woman waits, they wait in love.
Love is not hasty, but 'love is patient…' (1 Cor. 13:4)
"Oh, I know You are good to those who wait,
You can do more in my waiting than I can do in my lifetime,
Oh, soul, don’t be deceived, wait on God’s timing.”
I have to remind myself that You are above matter, space, and time.
My prayers then are ever present before You.
No future or past, my prayers are always present to You.
So I’m in the wedding business and all that jazz making videos.
Lately I’ve been getting super anxious thinking about all the wedding reservations I’ve been getting this year (over 15+ and the emails keep coming in monthly for couples wanting to reserve me).
I laid in bed few nights overwhelmed how I was going to pull through because I knew there were some days where my friends wouldn’t be able to come and help me due to their busy schedules.
So I prayed to God, “God, please, you know my situation. I’m anxious and worried, please send an additional videographer to my team..”
And today, a week after praying, I received a message from my Etcetera Prod. facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/etcprod) from a person I met one night,
"hey brian. i met you at DK’s proposal. it was nice meeting you.
I checked out your website and vimeo page, and they look really nice.
Let me know when you need an additional videographer. I don’t do too many weddings because i don’t have enough time to edit, but if it’s shooting only, i’m available most weekends.”
Omg, how I am relieved..
Thank you, God, for sending another videographer to my team so quickly!
Ugh! Wtheck, too good… So quick..
The day the Lord created hope was probably the same day he created Spring.
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